Woman demands boyfriend share the credit he got from paying for their couple cruise, which he booked as an apology to her, he refuses: ‘I'm entitled to the entire amount’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Dec 5, 2025 5:00 PM EST

When a boyfriend finds himself needing to apologize to his girlfriend, the best advice he could get is to do it wholeheartedly. Don't cut any corners, don't make shallow attempts at an apologetic gesture; just put your heart into it and let her take the lead on how to proceed from there.

The boyfriend in the story below messed up badly with his girlfriend, and he needed to do something to prove that he was sorry. He opted to take his girlfriend on a 7-day cruise, for which he completely paid. So far, a decent apology. 

While on the cruise, girlfriend finds out that her boyfriend got credit back for booking the cruise, and he actively hit it from her. She then demanded he share half the credit with her, but he refused, claiming he'd done enough by paying for the vacation.

Should he dive further into his apology and share the credit with his girlfriend, or is the girlfriend taking this apology cruise too far? And what did the boyfriend even do to warrant an all-paid-for cruise?

All the answers are waiting in the story below.

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  • AITA for not sharing my half of my cruise credits with my girlfriend?

    I booked a 7 day cruise with my girlfriend and I told her I would pay the cost of it to make up for a previous thing I wronged her on.
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  • On the cruise, there are also gratuities that are more or less "mandatory" to pay to the tune of about $110.
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  • We had not talked about me paying for that. As part of a promotion with booking the cruise, I got $150 credit that could be used for any purchase on the ship.
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  • In addition, I used a credit card (Amex Platinum) which I pay $700 a year for, but which gave me an additional $200 credit, for a total of $350.
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  • I told her that I had credits and I would pay for the cost of her gratuities and I sent her over the money.
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  • While I was at guest services, she found out that I actually had $350 and got very upset that I was "hiding" this from her and she demanded that I give her half of my credits.
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  • Her reasoning was that we are a couple and this was a cruise I was supposed to share half of everything.
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  • I argued that I pay a lot of money to get my extra $200 credit and I was already covering every obligatory cost for the cruise, like I had agreed to.
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  • AITA for not splitting the extra money I received? My opinion was that I was entitled to the entire amount and she shouldn't even have felt like the money for the tip was hers, as I had paid the cost of the cruise anyway.
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  • Edit: A few have commented that it depends on what I did wrong or if it was a financial wrong.
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  • No, it was not a financial wrong. I am choosing not to describe it because it would distract from the point of the post, but I was definitely the asshole, so that's why I made up for it by taking her on the cruise.
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  • ellie729 i'm going with YTA. you apparently did something so egregious that you agreed to pay for a cruise to make up for it, then squabbled over like $200 of credits? - what is that a handful of drinks and a royal carribean t-shirt? just break up lol
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  • FiddleStyxxxx It's wild that you're paying for an entire cruise to apologize for something that you don't want to talk about on here, but if you're going to do all that why are you hiding credits for it? This is supposed to be a gift to her so you gave her $150 to spend but you got $200. It's kind of unfair I suppose but you're the one buying an entire apology cruise. The whole situation is wild and you don't mention what you did in the first place to create this situation.
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  • Mundane-Cantaloupe78 What is the previous thing you wronged her on? Edit: YTA. You invited your ex wife in a family cruise, didn't tell your gf. Then to make up for it offered to pay for your gf. Edit to share his comment: Its a complex situation that would warrant it's own post and it would distract from the point of the cruise credits. I had invited my ex wife to the cruise because I have children and wanted my ex to be able to go on the cruise with the children (we would not be sharing rooms
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  • DrukMeMa ESH - your relationship is transactional, so what do you expect?
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  • nomorepumpkins Yta based on the fact you felt the type of credit card was important to the story but not how you wrong her and what you are making up for.
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  • Conscious-Owl-8514 YTA, you said in a comment that the reason you are buying an apology cruise is because you lied to your girlfriend about inviting your ex wife on the cruise. So as console she gets to come too, how nice she gets to spend time on the same cruise as the ex wife you invited unbeknownst to her. Then you tell her you have credits and pay her gratuity. She must have assumed that you only had the amount to cover the gratuity because you purposefully left out the amount of credits you
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  • MiddleMuscle8117 YTA for offering to pay for the cruise but nitpicking over some credits. Your girlfriend's reaction to learning you had the credits, on the surface, seems a bit intense but I get the feeling its the result of her having experienced your odd particularities in the past.
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  • bopperbopper I was going to say of course you should pay for the gratuities as that is part of the cost of a cruise...so you did hte bare minimum. But if you like your girlfriend, why wouldn't you want to share the credits? Are you going on an excursion by yourself? Drinking by yourself? Going to the spa by yourself?
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